Friday:
- Virtual window shopping
- Snacks
- Reading
- Snuggles
- Finally putting away laundry
- Admiring my thrift store finds
- Planning our next club event
Amidst all of this lazy fun, my boyfriend and I got into a very heated discussion. Details aside, I would like to share a lesson I learned. I seriously do not know everything. Nor am I always the good guy in an argument. I'll explain. I have this problem where I withdraw during heavy conversations. When I don't like what the person is saying and/or I am angry, I just stop talking. My mom always said this more powerful than yelling and yesterday my boyfriend asked me to imagine what it's like for the other person to just have to sit in silence. It occurred to me when he said that just how bad of a position I put him in when I act this way. I have vowed to try and learn a better way of communicating!
Do you ladies ever find that the boys in your life end up teaching you really big, important lessons? I suppose it's a special thing when a relationship causes you to grow as a person!
I had the same exact conv with my husband some years back. It was so eye opening. I totally do the same where I just shut down, and it's so unhealthy. Since that conversation, it's been hard but I definitely have come a long way. As a result, we are able to communicate with eachother so much more freely. It was a hard lesson, but it's been so life giving. So yeah, I know exactlyyy what you're talking about here!
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