The motto for this blog is that we are a place where style meets substance. Most of the time, I think we get the style thing down right :) Now, I want to really work on the substance side of things too. That was one of my main motivators for starting the Tea Parties, as I really wanted to get to know you ladies better, and chat about some different aspects of our lives. I want to continue these sorts of conversations, because I think that they bring us all closer together and help to make the blog about more than just pretty things -although those are very important too! :)
These conversations will focus on various parts of our lives, and this week we are starting out with a discussion about taking risks. When I was younger, it was very difficult for me to step outside of my comfort zone and try new things, let alone really put it all on the line for something I wanted. These days, I have grown out of that inhibition for the most part, but there are still times when I feel like the risk outweighs the reward. In order to move past these fears, and learn to ignore (for the most part) that mean little voice who tells you what you can and cannot do, I have developed some habits that help to minimize feelings of fear, and maximize the adventures I'm willing to depart on. Plus, I really like lists, so having a set of helpful tips is always a bonus for me!
1/ Most of us have heard it before, but it's so true that it's worth repeating -comparison is the thief of joy. I also believe that it feeds that little voice telling you what you can and cannot succeed at. Because of this, I always try to keep some perspective when admiring my favorite people. For instance, if there is a blogger you really look up to, or someone in your working field, appreciate the heck out of their work, but don't forget that they have probably worked their bum off to get there. Keeping this in mind should help the inadequate feelings to subside, and the motivation to work like crazy to take its place.
2/ Remember why you wanted to take this risk in the first place. Do you love the industry you are trying to break into so much that you are willing to put everything in to get there? For me, when I was considering starting my studio, I wanted a way to connect with rad clients and really flex my design muscles. Now, when I am gathering inspiration for a project and clicking with a client, the feeling is phenomenal, and I think about that rush when I get stressed and the fear tries to creeps in.
3/ Connect with honest and inspiring people. I have been reading Jessica's blog since my first year of university and she really helped me when I was struggling with the transition into adulthood. Today, I still read MML daily she really makes you stop and think about the way you go about your day. Plus, her business posts have lit a fire under me on more than one occasion! Go out and find someone who reminds you that these risks are worth taking, and if something goes off course, just straighten out and try again.
Now, I want to hear your thoughts on this topic! Do you struggle with taking risks? Any other thoughts to offer on the subject?
Fire away!
I am the opposite of you: when I was younger I had no problem with risk, but as I've gotten older, especially since having kids, I have really struggled with risk. I really try to make a conscious effort to make myself step outside of my comfort zone as often as I can. Small steps, you know. ;-)
ReplyDeleteUntil recently I was struggling with putting myself out there and finding opportunities. Being in a new city, not knowing anyone makes it even harder. So recently I adopted Eleanor Roosevelt's wise words; "Do one thing every day that scares you." I have it as the background on my ipad to be constantly reminded of this. For the past 2 weeks I have made sure I do at least one thing every day that is out of my comfort zone. Since adopting this motto I have landed myself an internship, networked with some inspirational business owners and organised a beautiful apartment for an absolute steal...and they are just the big things :)
ReplyDeleteI think this is a great feature idea Kendra and your first post is brilliant. I think connecting with honest and inspiring people is perfect advise. I recently read an article on The Every Girl that gave testament to the fact that being nice actually can take you far. (http://theeverygirl.com/feature/allison-cooke/)
I still struggle so much with taking risks! But little by little I'm getting better. I think in line with what you said, perspective is KEY when taking risks. When you think about the grand scheme of life, one huge risk momentarily can be very small overall. And who wants to die with regrets of not trying something? I don't want my fear to govern my decisions. Thanks for this blog, it has made me think!
ReplyDeletethat makes sense though! it can be so tough, but I do think it's worth the effort :)
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with this quote!! I think about it sometimes as well, it's just such a do-able things and such a great way to include more healthy risk in your life.
ReplyDeletegreat words emily! and it's so true, especially since the things we're afraid of are usually things we make up in our own heads!
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